Day Prior - Loaded up with laxatives/antibiotics and could only have liquids. Last time I ate Sat 7pm, next time I ate Wed 7am. It is hard at first but after awhile you don't feel hungry anymore.
Day 1-3 -In the hospital. Terrible pain. They want you to get up as soon as you can including the day of surgery. Not physically possible for me. I felt like the weight of the sun in pressure and pain. Slowly but surely by day three I was able to walk to restroom but tried to sit and had to head back to the hospital bed. I wasn't able to do the Sitz baths in the hospital as recommended because I couldn't sit. I could only sit with a donut. (Which the doctor doesn't recommend, by the way.) If I sat on it just right I could use the restroom. I was really scared to leave the hospital because I was in so much pain but I used a pillow in the car and got home just fine. I laid on the couch with a pillow under me and then I was not in pain. I was so thankful to be at home!
Day 7 - HUGE day for recovery! Once I got to this day I realized I was going to be ok. I experienced a great deal of burning (for a couple of weeks) but that was really the main pain. Not much you can do about that. (It is due to the large open wound mainly I think. I wasn't prepared for that. I thought the surgery was just internal.) I did a few of the Sitz baths but mainly did the shower wand on low after every time I used the restroom and changed the pads every time. After my pain meds ran out (10 days I think) I didn't need to refill them and just used over the counter.
Week Three - Started to have increased bleeding. Very normal. The doctor called it granulation tissue which is common for tissue healing. The doctor said I was healing great!
Week Four - I am still very aware I am recovering from surgery but mostly the minor discomfort, discharge, and bleeding. I am not in pain. I can also feel the swelling from the stiches area and the open wound. I am still experiencing a few of the gas and incontenance issues I was having but I can feel that connection to those muscles now so I am hopeful for a full recovery after the swelling goes down, etc. The doctor said that I would need biofeedback after surgery to help retrain the muscle so I think that will help too. (Not looking forward to that but not going to worry about that now.)
Although it is VERY difficult leading up to and after surgery, you will get through the pain and forget about it just like you did after the painful labor that probably led to your issues in the first place.